Twin Cities Leather & Latte is finally open! It's been a long time in coming, but thank you all for your support in this long, arduous process. We are open today and everyday from 7am until 10pm, so stop in and get your fix on coffee or leather and gear!
But this blog isn't just about dropping advertisements for my business. I'm really excited that the shop is finally open for a lot of reasons, but especially because it means less time will need to be spent on manual labor at the shop and I get to devote more of my time to writing and to this blog. Finally, I can get back to the roots of why I started writing in the first place.
Something that I'm asked multiple times over is, "What is it really like?" I always struggle to find an answer to that question, partly because I don't know what people are asking. I think people are really looking for specific examples to all the "fluff" I give them about community, brotherhood, negotiations, and sex.
Negotiations are a particularly strong vignette in my life right now. To that end, and to give you all an example of what it's "really like", I'm posting a verbatim transcript of a negotiation I had with a dom while deciding to meet up or not. All of this via RECON.
[Note: Presently, I'm in Chicago for the weekend.]
Him: So you here for business or pleasure this weekend?
Me: Pleasure. :)
Him: Heh. Then why aren't you already tied up right now?
Me: ...because most people work on Fridays? Hehe. Honestly I haven't looked too hard for any appointments. Kinda was looking forward to a "low key"ish weekend to get some writing done. That said, if fun finds its way my direction.... ;)
Him: Gotcha. What are you writing? And where are you staying?
Me: I'm staying with my friends [GearKidMN] and [PupFixie] near [an intersection near their apartment] ...and I'm writing a multitude of things, but particularly focusing on some e-mails to prospects, a couple business documents, and a book proposal
Him: Cool. Not terribly far from me.
Me: Seems like there's lots of gays in the area :)
Him: Yes. And kinksters.
Me: And...I've always been a fan of your work...
Him: Aw, gosh, thanks. You still sporting that hawt beard?
Him: Kewl. Almost a shame to hide it under a hood, but sometimes such sacrifices must be made.
Me: I trimmed it shorter to be more accommodating for tape and gags...
Him: heh Let's see.
Me: Let me take a pic. [pic sent] See? Just a bit shorter.
Him: Gotcha. And don't you follow instructions well. ;-)
Me: .......Yes.......Sir. :)
Him: heh. So what in my profile and text catches your eye?
Me: The galleries labeled "bondage" "encasement" and "ropework" are particularly stimulating...especially "encasement". I like that you do things drugs free - I'm anti-illegal drugs and poppers give me a headache, stuff up my nose, and make me lose my erection, so I really hate doms that like to popper up their boys within an inch of their lives. I do need to test my limits. I'm always pushing myself to discover and get into new things I fantasize about from time to time - the trick is being put into the headspace to enjoy it, which takes a particularly skilled dom. Watersports is a prime example (ew gross urine *puke*) but if I feel submissive enough.....that all changes. Exhibition and humiliation are other ones....the idea of being kept hogtied and gagged, naked, on the floor while a dom (or a few guys) ignore me and/or watch TV or the game or whatever is kind of hot...total objectification...but again, only if I can reach the headspace. All that said...I've been tying guys up and getting tied up since I was 17. With 12 years experience....I also feel like I can size up a "good" dom when I see one. I definitely see it in you.
Him: Thanks. You're not the first one to accuse me of it. ;-)
Me: You're QUITE welcome... :)
Him: There a particular experience you've been jonesing for lately?
Me: Hmmmm....IDK...I haven't been mummified in a while....I've been more interested in trying chastity combined with long term bondage/kidnapping (i.e., being stripped, hogtied, gagged, made really horny/dying to cum...and then locked up in chastity and thrown in a closet to simmer/DEAL WITH IT for a couple of hours). I don't know...I've been playing on and off with this boy in Minneapolis, longer scenes...and those have been really fun to not be allowed to speak...I mean, I typically have some kind of gag in/on, whether I"m tied up or not, for the whole 6 or 7 hour scene...makes me feel pretty submissive...But over all I do NOT like being a pushy sub/bottom. I like to forget about everything else when I'm tied...even myself. Use my body to please yourself....make me a horny moaning mess...I'll deal with it...I have to. It's not my place to ask for anything specific. So long as you're happy....Sir....then so was I.
Him: Lately I've been in the mood to let my inner sadist out. Some wicked ideas locked up in there.
Me: Oh? Like what?
Him: Painful predicament bondage positions.
Me: I.E....get yourself out because it's so painful?
Him: No, more like try and figure out what is going to cause the least pain. There's no escaping the pain part, but it will come from different sources.
Me: Interesting.....I think I've been in some situations like that before....pain turns me off....so there's definitely a motivation there for me. haha
Him: heh. What do you think of this pic? [sorry, I can't make it any bigger than this]
Me: It's VERY sexy.......very nice bondage....it incorporates a lot of things I enjoy...
Him: Such as?
Me: I love a good hogtie...it's pretty much one of my favorite bondage positions and one I can handle for an extended period of time....I have a HUGE fetish for gags/being gagged/silenced/muffled so of course the ballgag sticks out to me...the nakedness is humiliating to the sub, particularly if the dom is clothed...the hood because it means the sub can't see what's coming next...it's a very objectifying position.
Him: I have a way of making the simple act of laying there on the table become increasingly uncomfortable and painful over time. And I'm not sure if you can tell or not, there really isn't any safe way off the table, is there?
Me: No, there really isn't...so whoever is on there is stuck on that exact same position...
Him: Yep. And forced to endure, unless you want to tap out and face the consequence.
Me: What kind of consequences that that force?
Him: Well, with one of the boys here who I play such predicament games with, if he taps out, it's either going to be a full shave or 2 weeks in chastity. He has yet to tap out.
Me: Neither of those things sound particularly appealing....but I feel like you're the type of dom that sets a boy up for success, so to speak....testing limits and all that we discussed....something I think I'd be down for....
Him: Well, they're not supposed to be appealing. That's why they're consequences.
Me: .....when are you free? I'm convinced to come over.... ;)
Him: I was just about to type, boy. Patience. I was planning on having a quiet night in tonight since I'm likely out tomorrow night. No reason I can't have you over for you to stew for a few hours.
Me: :) Sorry for the impatience, Sir....And my schedule is pretty free so....whenever. :)
Him: What gear have you brought with you?
Me: Hm. I have rubber clothes(shirts, pants, chaps, etc.) , a rubber catsuit (I think), leather gags, leather muzzle, a leather hood I've had since I was 19, some rope, some duct tape of various sizes/styles, some medical foam tape, some plastic wrap, boots, a pair of leather pants, oh, and two full body spandex zentais...
Him: Any of that gear you're particularly fond of when used on you? And how do you tend to react to temperature when you're completely naked?
Me: All of it really....I wouldn't say anything more than anything else. And I get cold pretty easily...so I prefer it to be a bit warmer
Him: OK. I haven't sealed my windows yet for the season. It might be colder than you'd like.
Me: I'll make due...I don't really get THAT cold...I AM from Minnesota. I can deal with "drafty". hehe
Him: And if anything, it adds to the objectification.
Him: So if I had you over at 9, how long would you be available?
Me: However long you would want me, Sir. I'm free now through the rest of the night...really didn't have any plans made.
Him: When would you be done with dinner?
Me: Early...late...doesn't matter. Probably just going to grab something on the fly anyway...slept in and ate a late breakfast today.
Him: Cuz I'm thinking I could have you over at 6 or 7, and just store you in the cage for a couple of hours until I get around to ramping it up.
Me: ........OMG.......... :)
Him: You'd just hate that idea?
Me: No...on the contrary, I'd love it. :)
Him: I was being sarcastic.
Me: Ahhhh....you lose some inflection via text on Recon. ;)
Him: Yes, you do. You also lose inflection when you're heavily gagged and muzzled, boy.
Me: Mmmmmmmmmmmmppphhhhfffffff! ;)
Him: A couple hours this way should wear you down nicely. ;-) [pictures inserted of tied boys in a cage]
Me: *drool* So......6pm then? :) Where do I report?
Him: 6pm [address and further instructions]
Me: Yes Sir. Will do....and was there anything from the list I should bring with?
Him: No - we'll be using my gear to keep you a little more off balance. I would say dress simply, since you won't be that way long.
Me: Yes, Sir. I'm going to go grab a bite and get prepared...I'll see you soon!