Where've I been lately? Why the delays in writing?
I'll be the first to admit that I've lost some motivation to write, but hear me out. I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing.
This blog started out as a look into the kinky life of a 20-something from the Midwest. I had lived in Minnesota for just a little bit over a year. It took a lot of focus to throw myself into my work and become comfortable with that facet of my life. I hadn’t invested a lot of time or energy into a new community until I found myself on my feet as a nurse. There was work to be done to find the kink in Minnesota. There were friends yet to be made, bars yet to be explored, clothes yet to be bought, play yet to be had, etc. And through the journey, I brought you with me through the magic of the internet.
This blog turns two years old last month, and as I look back and reflect on what I’ve written thus far, I realize that something more has been going on here. I can’t say I was born proud at all; there was a day in college where I didn’t like the Showtime series Queer As Folk because it promoted promiscuity (don’t laugh). Becoming the proud, gay boy was a journey. When I started writing for you, I hadn’t dreamed of the day I’d feel comfortable enough to run down Hennepin Ave and try to hail a taxi while wearing nothing but latex. In order to find the kink in Minnesota and the Midwest, I first had to find the kink in myself.
I never dreamed of the day I would feel so empowered that I would even attempt a run at a contest, and certainly not MIR. The day I decided to start writing for this blog, I owned two (2) articles of latex gear/clothing.
I’ve written enough sappy posts about how amazing my life has become and how much I value my kink brothers and the life I’ve grown into, and I don’t want to bore you with yet another. Therein lies the point; my kinky life has become such an integral part of my everyday routine that it’s not even a separate part of my life. I don’t have any friends who are vanilla; I can talk about kink with any one of them, even if they’re not as kinky to me. I go to kink bars, I go to play parties, I go to events all over the nation, and I have friends in all corners of the USA and beyond. I even go to vanilla bars in full latex and I feel completely comfortable. And I do it often enough that it’s not such a novelty. I don’t get as excited about leather or rubber events because I go to them all the time.
I’m no longer striving to become a Minnesotan kinkster. I am one. The journey has ended, and thus, my motivation to write.
With the death of one journey, a new path must be taken. You can see that I’ve added a “hire me!” link above some months ago, and I’m proud to say that in the coming months, I’ll be attending trade shows to try to sell myself to colleges and universities throughout the country, to provide lectures and speeches on kinky life, BDSM, rubber, leather, and so forth. I’m sure that will bring plenty to write about.
But what, my readers, do you want to hear about? You are, after all, the ones who keep me motivated, and the reasons why this blog exists. I began writing because I thought there was something someone somewhere could learn by seeing life through my eyes. I can’t tell you all enough how much it means to me when someone comes up to me at an event or while I’m out of town and tells me they read my blog, and that it speaks to them. I’ve met several other 20somethings from various parts of the country who have told me that they never would have taken the plunge to dive into this community if they hadn’t first read about it here. Those people are so happy they took that leap, and that is what this blog is all about.
In the process of placing myself under your scrutiny, I’ve learned so much about myself.
So is it fun to read about what I now consider to be a mundane, everyday kinky life? Do you want to hear about it when I play with others? Just the events? Are you still interested in when Gear Night at the Eagle will be, and do you want to read a follow up post every month about how it went and what I did there? Are you only interested in pictures of what I think is hot? Should I reserve my ramblings for topics that really inspire me? Do people go back and read my back posts from the last two and a half years, or is it acceptable to write about the same subject multiple times?
What should I do with this space? I’m not very inclined to post picture after picture after video after picture of things I think that are hot. Ruff’s Stuff and the All-American Kinkster do that, and do it well. I spend enough of my own time on those sites. I write a blog because I enjoy writing. It’s the only thing that I feel I have even the smallest amount of talent for, and it’s something I enjoy doing. But only if I know what you want to read. Maybe it’s just too hard for me to grip the fact that my kinky life, though mundane it has become to me, is inspiring to others.
Please, leave some comments on this post, or send me an e-mail (Tynan@TynanFox.com). Tell me what it is you like to read about in this space. And thank you thank you THANK YOU for being a part of this blog for the last two years.
By the way, I turn 27 next week…..