Lots of people ask me about bondage scenes. One of my latest questions someone asked me was, "How do I get ready for my first bondage scene?" This took some thought, and I was about to blurt out, "I really don't know," but then I thought about it. I realized that without thinking about it, I have my own little ritual set that I go through in the days/hours before a bondage scene I have coming up. Here they are.
These tips are, of course, considering you have first taken precautions regarding safety, physiologic well being (discussed allergies, medications with your partner), and are using safer sex practices.
1) Caffiene in moderation
This one seems weird to put first. I don't care how early in the morning it is or how late at night it is. Caffiene is really only good for keeping me awake. I get gitters, I get hyperactive if I drink too much coffee, and no one likes coffee breath. Red Bull makes me burp, and no one wants to stop to have to take a piss right in the middle of a scene. Long story short - no one likes a tied up, tweaked out gay boy.
Bondage is strenuous and hard on the body, particularly with ropes. If you're with a particularly good or Type A dom, you may be stuck in one position for hours and hours. You want to go into the scene already hydrated.
As I'm getting older, I'm realizing that I'm not invincible. (Yes, I'm only 26). I'm still exceptionally flexible and can contort in many positions, but my job puts a lot of strain on my back and I've noticed that for the last year or so in my bondage adventures. Once a thing I thought was only meant for old people, I now find myself spending ten minutes or so stretching out my legs, arms, chest, and my back before jumping into some rope.
4)Quiet your mind
There's something meditative about being tied up. You don't want your mind racing a mile per minute while you're getting into it. And don't be nervous either. I'm usually a pretty social, bubbly, fun individual. While I'm stretching, I take a few moments to focus on shutting some of those areas of my brain off, and entering a more meditative state. It's hard to focus and enter that "headspace" while your mind is racing.