How to be a Stud...

...according to me.  Disagree?  Well, that's why it's according to me.

1)Be mysterious
My favorite leather cop, LeatherDehners is a prime example. He's been going to the Minneapolis Eagle for about ten years. He's an avid BDSM player and knows his craft well, and has a great playspace in his house. He often has guys over after meeting at the Eagle, and this is where the mystery comes in. You don't need to look up how to get to his house on Google Maps, becuase there's only one way to get there: tied up, gagged, and blindfolded in the back of his car. And that's how he drops you back off at the Eagle when he's done with you.

In 10 years, no one I can find at the Eagle knows where he lives, not even people who've been to his dungeon. To maintain that for 10 years!? Every good boy has a healthy sense of curiosity. That unknown about where you're going, that slight fear, that thrill, that rush....STUD. End of story.

2)Be sensual
One of the hottest scenes I have ever been in was also the most sensual. I was visiting Dakmaster's dungeon for a party, and I was finally getting to meet NixJohn. I arrived at the dungeon after him, and he happened to already be tied up in his hockey gear to a standing bondage frame in the basement/dungeon. When I arrived, Dak had me change into just my spandex shorts and boots, tied my wrists behind me, and blindfolded me. He led me downstairs, and told me to "get acquainted" with NixJohn.

Neither of us could see, but we were so nervous to finally meet one another. Breathing heavily, we spent a good amount of time exploring each other. The first thing I did was press myself up against him, which made him moan and struggle some...next, I found his neck, which I decided to kiss...

Dak kept switching the bondage positions around. We spent a good amount of time trying to "see" each other with our hands, lips, tongues...it was truly a magical, sensuous time. When we finally were allowed to see each other, we both decided to stay blindfolded for a while, like we were afraid to take them off. Amazing. And only a stud like Dak would think of doing something like that.

3)Be sexy
Let's face it; we're all a little bit shallow, no matter how much we try not to be. We all think it's wrong to judge based on appearences, but we all end up doing it anyway. That said, sexy can mean one thing to me and something very different to someone else. I'm sure that everyone in the world must be sexy to at least ONE other person out there. To me, lots of people are sexy. I have some rather varied tastes, and I think lots of guys are exceptionally sexy. But two guys were sexy enough to turn me on to something new.

BlackLeatherChazz is a stud in his leathers. I had always thought that the leather scene wasn't for me, because I was mostly into bondage. Then I met him, in person. I think the first time I saw him in leathers, my jaw hit the floor. I couldn't get over the look, the feel, the smell...My life changed drastically at that moment. Because of him, I now own a full set of leathers for myself. STUD.

Bicycler turned me on to the whole bondage scene in Minneapolis. He was one of the first guys I met when I moved up here from Missouri, for which I am ever thankful. And he's not too tough on the eyes, either. Tall, sexy voice, hairy, soft skin, athletic....and his bondage skills...well, you saw that suspension picture of me, didn't you? Need I say more?

4)Be confident
You can't show your studly self to others unless you truly feel you are such a stud. Just as important as knowing your shit is knowing when you know your shit. This is somewhere I struggle. I hold myself to standards which are likely too high; if I tie someone up in a group setting, I'm often told, "Wow. That's some amazing work." But I'm never satisfied. I always feel like it's not good enough or I could do better. I feel like my own bondage is substandard; group situation or not, I'm usually disappointed with my outcomes. Maybe I need to lower my standards of excellence and realize I DO know what I'm doing. Or maybe I just need to take a class.

I always strive to be more like YngMstrDetroit. He knows how to work over a boy. And he knows he knows how to work over a boy. His confidence shines through in every step, every scene, every slap with a flogger, every praise, every punishment, every order, every reward. He knows what's good for a boy, and what's not. It makes a boy feel safe and loved to know that Master knows best. I'm proud to call him my Sir.

5)Be humble
No one likes an asshole. There's too many of them in the world. While confidence is important, humility is equally important. It doesn't matter who you are, everyone has flaws. One who boasts their $100,000 playroom and their internally lit portable dungeon-in-a-box, or one who's goal is just to try to bang every guy on Recon is just going to turn me off. The most studly guys I know don't flaunt their work. They're quietly advertising, and they know their stuff.

MaleBndg is a perfect stud who didn't let his ego run away with him. He's very skilled, he's got the tools and the talent to make for one of the best scenes of your life (as I've experienced firsthand). I love him because he doesn't make a huge production of himself. He knows it only takes a few things to drive a boy crazy....and he does it well, without any shiny flashy lights or "look at me" advertising. Fortunately, he lets others do that for him ;)

I'm so fortunate to have met some of the most studly kinksters out there. I could have listed even more, but I can only type for so long. Thanks for the valuable life lessons you've given me, as I strive to become a stud myself.

~Tynan

Comments

[Condor]

I am impressed and certainly agree with everything that ya said. It takes a lot to be a Stud. :-) In any one factor. But there are always, those diamonds in the rough types, like certain someones I know.... ;-)

[Bicycler]

You are very sweet Tynan :) Thanks for the kind words! You're a rockstar and I'm very happy to know you as well! Keep rockin' Minneapolis for us.